How often have we heard today from the very next person that
we have encountered about them not having any peace of mind in their
lives. Perhaps, the reason, I believe is
that today we have thrown caution to the winds and have ended putting us to
worrying for those reasons that were never there in the first place. I would like to share these pearls of wisdom,
which I hope many of you would surely agree to.
Minding Our Own Business:
It’s time we learned to stop interfering in other people’s
affairs. Many of us have just forgotten
to understand the meaning of giving people SPACE. This could be because most of us have taken
it for granted we have the best logic available in today’s Super Market and
that those around us who refuse to come in to our line of thinking need to be
condemned and pulled by their horns into the right direction.
For a fraction of a few precious moments, have we thought
that we are indeed violating the person’s uniqueness? When we look at the five fingers on our
palms, what exactly do we see? Are they
all the same? The same point applies
here to every individual created by the Almighty, and we ought to respect every
individual for the beautiful creation bestowed by God. So do we really need to cross the thin line of
ethics?
Forgiving And Forgetting:
This sounds so very simple and easy. It’s understandable that putting it into
practice is a Herculean task. When the
people whom we love, trust and whom we respect, hurt us, we do have the strong
urge to cultivate antagonism. By doing this,
I believe that we are the ones who suffer the most. So, let us learn to lie low and concentrate
the art of counting to ten whenever we encounter moments of hatred from such
people.
Looking out for False Flattery:
We live in the midst of different types of people – some who
are egotistic, mercenaries and dogmatic.
They are those people who have no words like ‘Thank you’, ‘Please’ or
the basic ethics in their dictionary.
You will be able to recognize these people in no time. They are oozing with sweetness when they need
to get something out of you. But, once
their job is done, you are not in their list of known people.
These are the people who will lavish praises on you when you
are in the limelight with a good financial backing, having the power to be with
the rich, elite and the cream of society.
They do take pride in letting the people less known to them about their
contacts with you, which clearly indicates a very low self-esteem. The moment you are dethroned from your high
horse, these very same people are out to pull you down in public and sneer at
you. YOU’VE BECOME A VILLAIN OVERNIGHT.
Do not be the Green-eyed Monster:
What does envy do to anybody? It pulls people apart. Instead of being envious, why can’t the
people strive to work hard and learn how to climb the ladder of success? No, these envious people do not have the time
for all that and even if they do have they would like to waste it on plotting
the downfall of the successful people with new strategies up their
sleeves. They end up telling all and
sundry – “ I just cannot sleep at night.”
Naturally, how can they get
sleep, when they are busy rolling on the bed looking out for a new scheme till
the crack of dawn!!
We need to do our duty first and leave the fruits of it to the
Almighty. Instead of wasting time
blaming others for our mis-fortune, let us start using our time in a
constructive way. Envy is a passion so full of cowardice and shame, that nobody ever had the confidence to own it.
Let us change ourselves to the environment around us:
What happens when you expect the whole world to change to
your attitude? We could end up hearing
everyone say – Why must I change for him or her? I shall be the way I am. Accept it or leave
it. The point in question is – this is
where we need to change ourselves to the given circumstances, compromise a bit
and be easy to handle for others to move on and to allow us to move on in
life. What I mean to say that if you
want to live in Peace and harmony learn to be practical, and accommodative in
all spheres.
Learn to tolerate what cannot be Remedied:
In our daily routine, we do face so many situations that
often make us reach our saturation point.
We come across people who just refuse to change. We cannot help but give in to their mind-set. I believe that either we endure them or we
stay away from such toxic people who corrode our lives. They are so full of negativity that we tend
to feel we have reached the fag end of our lives.
Do not bite more than you can chew:
These are statutory warnings that need to be etched in our
brains. We ought to know our limits and
capacities to take on the responsibilities entrusted to us. I believe in the old saying: “All work and
no play makes Jack a Dull boy.” There should be a perfect balance in the work
we do and in the time we utilize for rest and recreation. We need to stop thinking
too much and start working on our goals in life, too. Unwanted thinking always results in a
restless mind.
Learn to be calm and relaxed:
Peace of mind is best achieved with a calm mind. Meditating best does this, which helps in
giving out your best and be more focused in life. You begin to get clarity in your thinking and
reasoning too. Once this stage is
reached you automatically learn to see success in all that you do.
An Idle Mind is A Devil’s workshop:
When you have nothing better to do the whole day, that’s
when evil thoughts are bred inside you.
Learn to keep yourself occupied with what best you are able to achieve
in getting peace of mind. It could be
putting your dormant talents to use, taking up hobbies that you have long ago
left behind, doing a charitable work that can give you a sense of fulfillment
in seeing joy in another person’s life.
If we tend to look around us, we would surely notice that there are a
lot of jobs pending that we had decided to pick on sometime and never pulled
ourselves to getting it done.
Stop Procrastinating and lamenting:
Delays are always very dangerous. We ought to write it in our hearts that every
day is the best day in the year. No man
ever served God by doing things to-morrow.
If we are blessed, then it’s only because of the things that we do to
day. As Young quoted, “ Procrastination
is the thief of time; year after year it steals till all are fled, and to the
mercies of a moment leaves the vast concerns of an eternal scene.”
I believe that the procrastinator is not only indolent and
weak but commonly false too; most of the
weak are false.
